Radical Transformation

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Welcome

You may think the goal of personal, professional and spiritual growth is to be happier, more peaceful, more successful, and more abundant. And it is, but your unresolved emotional pain and all the things that you hide, deny and repress about yourself are stopping you from getting there. It may seem paradoxical, but to free yourself from the pain and suffering that make you miserable and all the limitations that hold you back, you must look at the dark stuff in your unconscious mind. It’s only by doing this that you can live a truly joyful and fulfilling life.

Most people don’t want to look at the painful stuff because it brings up things they’ve tried to forget. But if you can find the courage to walk this path, what you’ll find is a solid, unshakeable sense of joy, self-compassion and love that can sustain you through the most challenging of life circumstances. You don’t need to be fearless or feel fully ready to begin this journey. You just need to be open and willing to take the first step.

My own personal growth has involved buckets full of tears. I’ve been curled up in a ball, sobbing and wailing with the pain of remembering. But by doing the work I discovered there’s a lightness. There’s joy. Kahlil Gibran said “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain”. He’s right. Looking back on how I was before doing this work, I now feel so much more joyful in my day-to-day life. I feel more open, more compassionate. When I see someone struggling, I can feel genuine empathy for them. I can relate to what it’s like to be caught in the pain of reactive patterns that so many of us experience.

It’s part of being human. We all have a shadow self – the parts of ourselves that we hide, deny and repress, usually because we feel they are unacceptable or ashamed of them. We all have internal saboteurs – the judgmental voices in your head that cause all of your stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappiness, and are the source of all the limiting beliefs, disempowering thoughts, and stories that hold you back. We all experience heartbreak, betrayal, loss, disappointment, regret and shame. It’s hard work being human. And it’s part of what makes the work I do real. I’ve felt it. I’ve lived it. And I can help you move through it so that on the other side you feel more joy, more alive and more engaged with your life. That is my gift to you, and to the world.

How This Work Can Change Your Life

  • Greater clarity in decision-making
  • Stronger boundaries
  • Improved confidence and resilience
  • Feeling calm under pressure
  • Feeling happier and joyful
  • Less self-sabotage
  • Quietening your inner critic
  • More fulfilling relationships
  • Breakthrough reactive patterns
  • Greater energy and vitality

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Two Threads

There are two threads to the way that I work.

The first is helping you when you’ve been hijacked by your saboteurs. The analogy I use is that when you get hijacked, it’s like you’ve put your hand on a hot stove. It’s painful for you and for the people you’re in relationship with. And the crazy thing is, when people get hijacked, they often keep their hand stuck to the hot stove.

I’ve done this so many times. I’ve had my hand on that hot stove for a long time. It’s hurt me and the people around me. That’s why I know how important it is to gain awareness of our saboteurs, to come back to our sage, to our higher self, to our authentic self, and actually live from that place.

It’s possible. I do it often now. My saboteurs still try to hijack me, and sometimes they get away with it. But now, I can feel it. I’m familiar with the felt sense in my body when my saboteurs are trying to hijack me. I recognise the thoughts that are coming from my saboteurs. I know how it feels when I’m disconnected from my authentic self. When it happens, I use the tools I’ve learned to regain control from my saboteurs and come back to my authentic myself.

Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy.”
Gay Hendricks

The second thread is working with the pain of childhood wounding. The saboteurs formed because of childhood wounds. The analogy I use is that if you cut yourself really badly, you need to attend to that wound. Rumi said, “Don’t turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place—that is where the light enters you.”

You must be with the pain of your young parts. Your saboteurs are young parts. You must be with them, to hold them, not to identify with them, not to fix them, just to be with them. Like you would if a child were crying. You wouldn’t get distressed and join them in the crying. You’d kneel down and hold them. That’s what you need to do with the wounded parts of yourself.

This is the root of the problem. This is where it started. And, you also need to deal with the symptoms—how you act out from that childlike place when you’re stressed or triggered. This can cause so much pain in your life and in the lives of the people around you.

So this gives you an idea of how I work. We’ll deal with the root of the problem and the symptoms that cause you so much chaos and conflict in your life. We’ll work with both threads together.

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How I Work

My one-on-one coaching sessions are unique to your specific needs. I don’t offer one-size-fits-all coaching packages, contracts, or fixed agreements. If I can help you in one session, I will. If you find value in what I offer and want to continue our sessions, that’s also great. I tailor my support to meet your specific needs. That could mean daily calls to keep you on track, weekly face-to-face deep dives, or just ad hoc sessions when something comes up.

This isn’t therapy. I don’t diagnose or treat mental health conditions. What I offer is transformational coaching that supports you with the challenges you face in your life today.

If you have patterns of behaviour that you keep repeating, then you are recreating your past in the present. Nothing changes. This is how your past becomes your future. It’s by changing how you are in the present moment that you enable yourself to create a different future. We might need to look at the past to understand what’s driving the negative or reactive patterns of behaviour. But the change happens now, in the present moment.

My approach draws on over 20 years of personal, professional, and spiritual growth, as well as positive intelligence, positive and humanistic psychology, human potential, parts work, shadow work, Gestalt therapy, deep inquiry, Eastern philosophy, and cutting-edge transformational coaching techniques.

I combine this with my perceptive observation of your body language, vocal tones, and the phrases you use to express yourself. I use these insights to guide you toward a radical shift in your awareness, so you can live a more authentic and joyful life.

If we decide that working together feels enjoyable and rewarding, the level of support I offer will depend on what you want and my availability. If I decide to work with you, I’ll be committed to your personal, professional and spiritual growth. As long as my schedule allows, I’ll offer the level of commitment you feel you need.

It’s important to me that we both feel aligned. I work best with people who are ethically minded and committed to their personal, professional and spiritual growth. If you’re not ready to look at what within yourself is holding you back, or if you’re looking for someone to give you quick answers without doing the inner work, then this probably isn’t the right space for you.

Everyone Is Welcome

My aim is to foster an environment where people from diverse backgrounds, including those with differences in race, age, colour, ethnicity, gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, migratory status, disability/abilities, and socioeconomic status, feel valued, supported, and inspired to achieve their personal, professional and spiritual potential. If you share these values, I would love to work with you.

What My Clients Say

  • ‘Life feels more exciting than ever as I realise the opportunities and possibilities available to me now‘. AM
  • ‘Stephen is an expert. I can’t recommend him enough’. DE
  • ‘I cannot adequately express the power of the work we’ve done together; it has touched many aspects of my life’. SJ
  • ‘Stephen helped me look at the things that have been holding me back as well as working towards a future that I’m excited about’. GS

My Fees

My fee is on a sliding scale, ranging from £65 to £95 for a 60-minute session. You choose the amount that feels right for your financial situation. There’s no need for justification; I trust your integrity to pay what feels fair. What matters most to me is that this work is accessible to people.

A rough guide is:

• £60 – if funds are limited
• £90 – standard rate
• £120 – if you can and wish to support my work at a higher level

I offer my sessions with a sliding scale, keeping my coaching accessible while giving those who can and wish to contribute more the opportunity to do so.

Lets Talk

If you’re interested in working with me, click the link below to book a complimentary session. There’s no commitment. There’s no pressure. Let’s just meet, human to human, and have a conversation. You can get a sense of me, and I can get a sense of you. We’ll work out whether it feels right to work together. I’d love to see you soon.

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Do You Have a Question?
Email me – stephen@acumentherapies.co.uk